Synopsis: Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.
The reason for this is
that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work.
A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s
subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many
married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling
husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.
to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get
closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in
stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical
advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide
will help couples find love beyond words. (from the back of the book)
Review: I read this at the instruction of a marriage counselor. It was enlightening, but not mind-blowing. I didn't agree with all of the advice, but the basic idea seemed true. And some of the advice has been useful. I would recommend as a resource to marriages in trouble, but not as a end-all-be-all fix. It will simply give one several good ideas, perhaps some useful tips. Personally, I found other books more helpful for my marriage. But each marriage is unique and this may speak to others in ways it did not speak to me.
Bookmarks: 6 of 10
Date Finished: 9-21-2012